108. Attachment in Friendships: Why It Hurts So Bad to Be the Friend Who Always Reaches Out

Why do adult friendships feel so much harder than they used to… and why does it still sting when you’re the one who keeps reaching out? In this fourth live coaching session with Cordelia, we unpack the hidden attachment wound behind adult friendship struggles. We talk about the longing for a core group, the ache of feeling left out, and the subtle ways we dismiss our own strengths when connection doesn’t look the way we imagined it would. We explore how loneliness in adulthood can activate deeper beliefs like I’m not enough, and how those same beliefs show up in your job, your confidence, and your willingness to start over. This conversation is about more than friendships. It’s about agency. It’s about choosing to go anyway. It’s about learning how to stop taking other people’s limitations personally and start building a life that aligns with who you actually are. You might want to listen if: You crave a core group of friends but feel like you’re always the one making the effort You feel lonely even though you technically “have friends” You struggle with taking dismissal or rejection personally You’re afraid to start over at work because you secretly fear you’re not enough You want to feel more secure and agentic in your relationships instead of stuck or powerless FIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.