In this interview with Jessa Zimmerman, we reframe desire discrepancy as normal, not a defect, and show how couples can move from pressure to play with clear tools, language, and empathy. She explains proactive vs reactive desire, why “no” should be celebrated, and how to build a buffet of intimate options. • normalising libido differences across long-term relationships • shifting control dynamics away from pressure and blame • identifying health, stress, and relational obstacles to desire •...