In this episode Dr. K sits down with content creator BSJ to discuss the hidden psychological weight that remains after tackling Puer Aeternus (the eternal youth). They explore how moving past the "commitment-phobe" phase is only the beginning of the journey, leading into a deeper dive into perfectionism, conditional love, and the "monster in the basement" that drives high-achievers to punish themselves even after they succeed. Key Topics:• Beyond Puer Aeternus: Why simply "taking the plunge" into a career or relationship is not the end goal, but rather the start of deeper psychological healing. • The Origins of Perfectionism: A powerful look at how childhood experiences—like being reminded of the two missed free throws instead of the eight successful ones—lead to an adulthood defined by constant self-critique. • The Weight of Being "Hard on Yourself": Understanding why high-achievers use self-induced pain as a motivational system and the immense mental exhaustion it causes over time. • The Role of Blame in Healing: Why Dr. K suggests that you must accurately place blame for childhood damage before you can truly forgive and move past it. • The Loneliness of "Leveling Up": Exploring the isolation that often accompanies emotional growth, as shifting your life path can create a wedge between you and your old peer groups. HG Coaching: https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3Szt HG Memberships: https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services: https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices