In this episode, Dr. K deconstructs the societal "scam" that hard work alone is the cure-all for your problems. He explains that true progress isn't found by simply pulling the "effort lever" harder, but by shifting your internal understanding to turn high-resistance struggles into effortless actions. What to expect in this episode: The Effort Paradox: Why "successful" people often exert less effort than those struggling with depression or ADHD, who must work significantly harder just to perform basic tasks. The Board Game Metaphor: How reorienting your approach—like fixing a tilted box lid—allows you to stop "powering through" and start moving forward without burnout. Incongruent Regret: An analysis of how the mind sabotages your progress by telling you your wins are "not enough" or "too late," effectively turning every "W" into an "L". The Help-Rejecter Trap: Why the ego often makes us reject professional help because we feel we should be able to "pull ourselves up by our bootstraps" alone. Avoiding the "Debt of Exhaustion": Why sustained effort is about staying within your capacity rather than dipping into reserves that lead to total burnout. Reclaiming Power: Practical advice on listening to internal signals and making small, 1% shifts to regain a sense of choice in your life.Dr. K's NEW Guide to Love, Sex, & Relationships is coming May 2026! Pre-order now: https://bit.ly/4dO3x0VHG Coaching: https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships: https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services: https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices