Birthdays can bring up more than we expect—disappointment, pressure, and questions about our friendships. In this episode, I talk with my close friend Debra Arbit about a different approach: taking ownership of your birthday in a way that feels intentional, flexible, and actually enjoyable. We explore how expectations, effort, and mindset shape not just your birthday, but your friendships as a whole. Special thank you, as always, to my assistant producer, Rebekah Jacobs!