Marriage and parenting are often painted as beautiful, fulfilling journeys (and they are!). But there are also parts no one really talks about until you’re in the middle of them. In this episode, we’re getting real about the unexpected challenges that catch couples and parents off guard. From shifting identities and communication struggles to the mental load, loneliness, and loss of spontaneity, we’re unpacking the truths people don’t always share before saying “I do” or bringing home a baby. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, navigating early parenthood, or deep in the trenches, this honest conversation will help you feel seen, understood, and a little more prepared for what’s ahead. Love you guys! Shawn & Andrew IQBAR ➡ To get your twenty percent off, text EASTFAM to sixty-four thousand. Text EASTFAM to 6400 Wayfair ➡ Head to www.https://Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home! Olipop ➡ You can actually get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any two cans in store. They’ll pay you back for one!! Head to www.https://drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS to get a free can when you buy two BranchBasics ➡ Tossing the toxins has never been more convenient. And if you’re grabbing the Premium Starter Kit, you can still get 15% off at www.https://BranchBasics.com with our code EASTFAM (00:00) what a spring break that was (03:22) things no one warned us about (04:28) the “50/50” concept (08:00) biggest fear going into our first child (15:21) the different types of loads we all carry (17:58) how parenting brings out new nuances (21:38) connection vs compatibility (26:38) selfish vs selfless (29:16) the roommate phase (and the phases after) (33:39) intimacy isn’t just “sexy time” (37:00) how quickly we adapt (38:28) apologizing, grief, and missing the past (45:12) speed checks and finding the right cadence (46:43) not just having “yes men” + accepting help (47:30) having family nearby (48:02) protecting our time together (48:32) the “we” pronoun (49:10) the four-month window (52:54) don’t assume (53:30) life is WONDERFUL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices